I never thought I’d be one of those mothers who could breastfeed. And I ended up being right about myself.
I started thinking about breastfeeding in the later stages of my pregnancy. Why not? I thought to myself. I read about the benefits of breastfeeding. I realized I’d be an awful mom if I didn’t give my twins the chance to have those breastfeeding benefits.
I tried. I really did. I gave it my all. But I couldn’t. And here’s why:
What they don’t tell you, when they push you into thinking of how great it feels to breastfeed, is that it’s also very emotionally hard.
I’m not going to talk about the physical problems, because honestly I didn’t have any and it went very smoothly for me.
As I’ve mentioned it before, after the birth of your kids, it’s not all rainbows and flowers. If you add to it questions like: Did my baby breastfeed well? Did he get enough milk? Add to it, in case of twins: The left breast is easier am I favoring the one who’s breastfeeding from the right one?
So as I tell all pregnant women, do not stress on the fact that you absolutely have to breastfeed. Because, while you stress about breastfeeding, you miss out on a lot of things you could have enjoyed with your child. And it definitely doesn’t help you, psychologically.
I know that it’s important to breastfeed, and I do admire moms who do it. But baby’s milk is really well thought of, and cuddling is always a good alternative.
So my advice is, cuddle first, breastfeed only if you’re very comfortable to do it. Do not let the pressure take away the preciousness of those first months.
And kudos to those brave breastfeeding moms!